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Affiliation Equals Safety

by , | Nov 13, 2020 | Blog, Science

The dorsal anterior cingulate cortex (dACC) is a small strip of the brain located deep within the frontal cortex and is part of the complex alarm system that was known primarily for picking up the distress of physical pain. Surprisingly, the dACC also lights up in response to social pain and isolation, even to simply being ‘left out’ of a game. 

The more emotionally distressing the social pain or isolation is to someone, the more the dACC is activated. To our brains, the pain of being socially isolated is the same as the pain from a physical injury or illness. That the dACC reacts so strongly to both physical pain and social pain is a measure of how important it is to be included/ accepted, and how damaging it is to feel left out. 

Repeated social exclusion draws on painful experiences as a model for future social interactions and relationships. The dACC becomes more sensitized and reactive as the person anticipates more exclusion and then interprets each social encounter according to that expectation. The more times that someone is left out or rejected, the more the experience of being left out is knitted into neural pathways. 

A competitive, judgmental, unaccepting environment increases the reactivity of the dACC, creating and reinforcing exclusion. An overactive dACC is the result and the cause of social exclusion. 

In a world that isolates many adults struggling with various challenges, the 40 people in CalmConnect™ are always compassionate and safe. Countless therapists have told us that for some of their clients, the people that they see on CalmConnect™ each day are often the only people who look at them with unconditional acceptance, making absolutely no requests or demands. CalmConnect™ provides a significant emotional and global connection through a varied group of people of all ages, helping others to connect with the real world. 

Loneliness is painful. Professor Robert Waldinger, Director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development, one of the world’s longest studies of adult life, wrote that “loneliness kills. It’s as powerful as smoking or alcoholism.”

Authors

  • Roberta Scherf is a producer, writer, and speaker. Her own experience with Post-traumatic stress disorder and as the mother of a child with autism fueled her drive to understand the nervous system. Roberta’s curiosity, passion and commitment led to the design of an innovative non-pharmaceutical system that helps people to manage their own nervous system and behavior. She is the inventor of CalmConnect, the first patented behavioral health program to integrate music, patterns, the expressive features of emotion, and movement as part of a self-regulation program currently being used in thousands of school districts in the US and Canada, as well as therapy centers, hospitals, clinics, and homes around the world. She attended Carleton College and the University of Minnesota, studied Speech and Hearing Science, Psychology, and Russian, and spent years working with non-profit organizations. Roberta is the Co-Founder of PrioHealth LLC, and contributor to the book, “Optimizing Learning Outcomes: Proven Brain-Centric, Trauma-Sensitive Practices,” edited by Dr. William Steele, (Routledge, 2017).

  • As the co-creator of CalmConnect and co-founder of PrioHealth LLC, Chris Bye has spent more than ten years developing programs to regulate the nervous system. He completed his undergraduate work at Gustavus Adolphus College and his graduate work at UW-Madison and has a background in music and human development. He has taught numerous classes at UW-Madison, UW-River Falls, and the University of St.Thomas, including Entrepreneurship and Business Ethics. As a featured speaker, he has presented at numerous conferences and seminars on topics ranging from integrating movement and music into the classroom, reducing anxiety and depression in people of all ages, and using tools to help those struggling with a variety of challenges. One of the founders of the Fly Fishing Film Festival in River Falls, Wisconsin, Chris serves on the Executive Committee of the Board of Directors for the Kinni River Land Trust, and as an Officer with the MN Grouse Dog Association.

Authors

  • Roberta Scherf is a producer, writer, and speaker. Her own experience with Post-traumatic stress disorder and as the mother of a child with autism fueled her drive to understand the nervous system. Roberta’s curiosity, passion and commitment led to the design of an innovative non-pharmaceutical system that helps people to manage their own nervous system and behavior. She is the inventor of CalmConnect, the first patented behavioral health program to integrate music, patterns, the expressive features of emotion, and movement as part of a self-regulation program currently being used in thousands of school districts in the US and Canada, as well as therapy centers, hospitals, clinics, and homes around the world. She attended Carleton College and the University of Minnesota, studied Speech and Hearing Science, Psychology, and Russian, and spent years working with non-profit organizations. Roberta is the Co-Founder of PrioHealth LLC, and contributor to the book, “Optimizing Learning Outcomes: Proven Brain-Centric, Trauma-Sensitive Practices,” edited by Dr. William Steele, (Routledge, 2017).

  • As the co-creator of CalmConnect and co-founder of PrioHealth LLC, Chris Bye has spent more than ten years developing programs to regulate the nervous system. He completed his undergraduate work at Gustavus Adolphus College and his graduate work at UW-Madison and has a background in music and human development. He has taught numerous classes at UW-Madison, UW-River Falls, and the University of St.Thomas, including Entrepreneurship and Business Ethics. As a featured speaker, he has presented at numerous conferences and seminars on topics ranging from integrating movement and music into the classroom, reducing anxiety and depression in people of all ages, and using tools to help those struggling with a variety of challenges. One of the founders of the Fly Fishing Film Festival in River Falls, Wisconsin, Chris serves on the Executive Committee of the Board of Directors for the Kinni River Land Trust, and as an Officer with the MN Grouse Dog Association.